In college when I had to lose myself to find my way, my family has gone from a dirty mirror to a microscope of resounding clarity in helping me to figure out my problems, find a course of action and motivate me to follow up. Gone are the days of just wondering into one of my brother’s rooms and having a wrestling match to help my settle my adolescent frustrations. Now, with my irons in the many fires of worldly ambition, I need a logical voice of reason, expertise in areas beyond my understanding and usually a few beers. My family provides just those things.
A little context should help you understand why my I seek and receive help. First, I’m an industrial engineering in a healthcare system. I work for a large, political and bureaucratic organization. While my schooling is based in statistics and science, execution of my work and ideas relies largely on communication, management and organization. While I’m not expert, I would say I have some experience in each of those realms that contrasts or compliments my family.
From my younger brother I learn patience, a warm positive approach to others and to the task at hand. Calm and resolved sense of excellence. Cutting edge nutrition and physical fitness information.
From my older brother, prioritization and perseverance. As a Naval Academy graduate and current Navy officer, sacrifice certainly comes to mind and is reflected in the stories he tells me. He is married as well, so resolve and selflessness are demonstrated.
From my brother’s wife, who I affectionately call my sister, a never ending well of love and care for others, regardless of their disposition towards her. Undying compassion for children, animals and families. A faith in a higher being.
My mother is a voice of reason, as all mothers are. She knows my tendencies, my traps and what can heal me in times of need.
My father is the stalwart of the family, the flying flag of work ethic and determination on the borderline of obsessive. He knows how to run a team or organization effectively, getting the right people on the boat and then sailing for as long as possible. He sticks to his principles and inspires me to develop principles of my own.
It’s important that I constantly remind myself that these people are here for me as much I am here for them, and that I’m never alone in a time of need. They all are favorites on my phone, and the first to call when I need guidance on the subject matter of their expertise. That’s a slightly technical way of saying I love their perspective on life and their support for me.